Here’s The Secret To More Passion In Your Marriage

You know the old saying, “sometimes you have to fake it until you make it?”  I’ve decided it applies to marriage.

My wife and I are both very busy.  Commitments, work, kids, you name it – we’re both always running and usually in different directions.  Recently, we had a chance to catch our breath and realized that it had been a while since we had spent some “naughty time” with one another.

Actually, we have given such activity a code word.  We call it “playing bunco” when discussing it in front of the kids.

But I digress…

When we have not had any intimate time in a while, we both get cranky, but for different reasons.  I’m cranky because, well, I enjoy bunco.  My wife gets cranky because I am cranky and am not as affectionate as I should be (hugging, kissing, hand-holding, etc.).  It turns into a vicious cycle with each person waiting for the other to make the first move.

So what’s the answer?

Guys, sometimes you need to do the gooshy-loving stuff when you don’t feel like it.  And women, sometimes you need to pay bunco even when you don’t feel like it.  It’s like forcing yourself to start laughing when you’re bummed out.  Eventually your fake laughter turns into real laughter.  I think the same thing happens in relationships.  Give it a try.  It can’t hurt.

Besides, wouldn’t you rather be playing bunco with somebody instead of solitaire?